Things you should never say to a person who is trying to get healthy:
1. "You're going to be so pretty once you lose the weight." Thanks? Does that mean you don't think I'm pretty now?
2. "Are you sure you want to eat that? I thought you were on a diet." Yes, I'm sure! AND I'm not on diet, I'm changing my lifestyle. I don't have to totally deprive myself of everything I enjoy. It's all about moderation.
3. "I just hope you don't get all conceited once you're skinny." Why on earth do you think I'll become conceited and egotistical once I'm down to my goal weight!? I'll still be ME, just a better and more confident version of me. Who I am at my core WILL NOT change.
4. "Now I'm going to have to compete with you too." I'm competing with no one other than myself. We shouldn't have to compete. We should encourage and lift each other up, because there are enough people out there (especially the media) who want to tear us down and tell us we aren't good enough.
5. "Once you are able to workout harder I'm sure the weight will start to fly off." I'm pretty sure I'm working my ass off right now. Just because I can't do what you can right now doesn't mean I'm not giving it my all!!
6. "Your injuries are due to all the extra weight you have been carrying around." You don't think I already know that!? I don't need you to tell me that. I am aware of my situation, hence why I am taking control of my life and making changes.
7. " That is a really big goal!" YES IT IS!! But I will stop at nothing to achieve it! I am worth it, and I'm not going to let anyone tell me I can't do it. Doubt me, I love proving people wrong.
** These are all things that have been said to me since starting my journey, and while I laugh and joke about them now, it really is not okay to criticize someone who is making a conscious and hard effort to be better. Be aware of what comes out of your mouth, and make a strong effort to encourage and build others up! A kind word can make someone's day, so who's day are you going to make today!?
Kk, you amaze me. You are so stunning and strong. I have been inspired by you time and time again over the last seven years I've known you. I think you are amazingly sexy just the way you are. Thank you for inspiring me to do lifestyle changes as well. You are a bad ass with a hot ass and I miss you so much. I love you. -Rach
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